Where the F**k Are We Going?

Where the F**k Are We Going?

So, this is the first post that I’ve written in a really long time. Besides posting some random recipes and other shit that I really wasn’t super passionate about, I’ve taken just about a year off. I started to slow down writing posts towards the end of grad school because everything just got kind of crazy. Then it was only about two months before the pandemic hit after-that. During those two months I was busy flying around getting ready for my best friends wedding that ended up being canceled 24 hours ahead of time on March 14. Since then honestly this last year has been a total blur.

We were all kind of in the same boat where we didn’t really know what was going on the anxiety of our health was weighing on me. Also being isolated didn’t help. I live by myself and for the first four weeks of the pandemic I stayed by myself because we really didn’t know what was safe, what was CDC approved, there just really wasn’t enough information out about everything. This really impacted my mental health.

Then came all the lay-offs. It felt like every single company was laying off their employees so we were all just waiting around hoping that we weren’t going to be laid off. We didn’t know that it would end up being OK if we were laid off or furloughed. This is something that everyone in every single industry was worried about, including myself and my close friends. I was fortunate enough not to be laid off but no matter what industry you’re in we all felt how hard it was maintaining the work ethic you had before while going through all of this shit. I really hit a dark place not just for a little while but for quite a few months.

During this time one of the biggest things that I constantly struggled with was my purpose. I started this platform because I wanted to connect with people. I feel that I am a very relatable person and that there are people out there I may be able to help just as other bloggers have helped me. Over the last eight months I’ve done a lot of thinking about what I want the Tay Greeley Blog to be.

Now I don’t have all the answers, but one thing that has remained consistent is I want to be relatable and I want to remain a lifestyle blog. I’m asked all the time what a lifestyle blog is. Honestly I can’t really answer that. My classification of lifestyle blog is it’s a blog about my lifestyle. I am a recovering student, I have loan debt, I’m still figuring out my career, I love nice things but I also love a bargain. I try and be as healthy as possible but I also indulge in guilty pleasures. I’m always looking for easy recipes for people who don’t always have time a.k.a. me. Outside of the pandemic I absolutely love traveling and restaurants. I have traveled over the last couple months a little bit but nothing like I was before, and that goes for restaurants as well. I like to look cute and comfy but I don’t want to spend a ton of money. And most of all I struggle with mental health and I know how hard it is feeling that you’re alone but I really want you to know that you’re not.

So, if you’ve been someone following me since the beginning, thank you. I appreciate the support more than you know. If you are someone just joining, welcome! I hope you find interest here. If you’re literally just reading this to talk shit, thank you as well. Your views and clicks on my website actually support my statistics and I’m paid for that.

I’m looking forward to it 2021 is going to bring to the Tay Greeley Blog. If you have any suggestions, feel free to use the contact tab or comment below, I appreciate it!

XOXO, Tay

Navigating COVID-19

Navigating COVID-19

I’ve wanted to do a post like this for quite sometime now, however, what do you say to your followers and try to give someone advice on how to navigate this shitstorm if you are struggling yourself.

I have found solace in seeing how others are navigating this crazy time and implemented some self care practices that have helped others. I hope that I can be of some help if you are still trying to figure this shit out as others have helped me.

Isolation

The HARDEST part of quarantine for me is that I have been isolated in my studio apartment with my cat. I have had little to no human contact during the first 8 weeks of quarantine as James was considered essential and was forced to remain on site. Over the last few weeks I have been able to see him more, however it has been very limited. For the first few weeks I was just watching TV constantly and wouldn’t leave my apartment for sometimes a week at a time and then it was just to go to the grocery store.

It was so difficult to focus on anything – my diet, work, maintaining relationships. It just made me really think of what state my life was in and how depressed I was. I felt so alone and isolated. I would see what people were posting on social media of being quarantined with people they love and roommates/significant others and it was DESTROYING ME.

I have a really close friend, Michelle, who also lives by herself. We were going through the same thing feeling isolated and not having anyone we cared about physically close to us. It felt so good to have someone else who understands what you are going through. I began to look at it as a challenge. If I can get through this, it will just make me so much stronger as an individual. Being able to learn to be comfortable by yourself, support yourself, and be OKAY with being alone is a tricky thing to navigate. But people do it, and this has forced me to figure out how to navigate these times. This is totally different than being in a normal setting living alone – most people have friends or family they are around even if they live independently – but this is a most extreme example.

Hobbies

I am not a girl who has hobbies AT ALL. When you spend 8+ years in school constantly year round, it is hard to maintain that, work and having a hobby on the side. But somethings I do love is organizing, decorating my home, cooking, and just trying new things to keep my lifestyle as healthy as possible. ALL of the posts I have done during quarantine have been mostly food. Because what else does my life revolve around. I wouldn’t consider these hobbies, but they make me happy – and that’s all that matters.

Media

While I do miss having cable and running during commercials for a bathroom break, I am SO glad I do not have it now. There is so much negativity, panic, and opinion pieces out there it kills me and raises my anxiety levels to exponential heights. During this time, I have not watched a single news cast other than Governor Baker’s addresses (and the Governors of RI and CT because those are my regions for work). All of the news I have been getting regarding COVID-19 has come directly from these addresses or the CDC its self. While everyone is entitled to their own opinions and press should be free – I think during this time it is most important to have FACT based information and reporting’s. I personally refuse to feed into the panic some media outlets produce in order to get higher ratings.

Mental Health

As someone who has seen a therapist for years, it has been challenging dealing with Isolation, worry of mine and my loved ones health, and everything else I would typically have anxiety over. I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety since I was a kid and then when I was 22 I was diagnosed with PTSD. Whether you have a mental health diagnosis or not, this COVID-19 pandemic has taken its toll on most of the population. Those of us who have gotten our diagnosis under control have seen it fly out the window during this uncertain time and have had to adjust our coping mechanisms.

There are so many resources out there now that were not out there a few years ago. If you find yourself struggling with mental health UTILIZE YOUR RESOURCES! You are not alone, there are people there to help you. Digital Mental Health has taken a massive turn over the last year and even more so During COVID. With support from my family, friends, and health professionals, I have maintained my mental health to the best of my ability during this time. Some additional resources I have listed below:

 

Put your happiness first.

While this is something you should practice at all times, you should especially make sure this is your first priority during quarantine. You want to go for a walk, do it safely. (the featured image is from my “super secret, secret spot” as James calls it) You want to binge watch your favorite show all day and stay inside even though it is 80 degrees outside, do it. As always, everyone is going to try and tell you what you should and should not do. “You should try and learn a new skill or take a new class.” “Why don’t you try and be productive?” – Don’t let people make you feel like you are less than because you are not coming out of quarantine a superhuman who can balance 5 million things at one time and that this is a time where you HAVE TO pull your life together. It’s not. It’s hard. It’s scary. If you want to use this time to pull your life together and be productive, learn a new skill, or whatever else you decide, GREAT! You go and do you.

After reading this post through, I am not sure if there is much advice in here, but its real and raw. It is from my heart and is expressive of how I feel. It seems as if we are starting to come out of this craziness, but even with the phased approach that Massachusetts has taken there is still so much uncertainty.

Stay Safe and Stay Healthy. As always, thank you for reading!

XOXO

Tay